Wednesday 23 November 2011

Again

are we destened to date the same men over and over again?
is it true do we have our own patterns and no matter what we do to change them we will always stay on them??

Gina-
 "yes its true, ive dated guys who where tall, dark, handsome and had huge passions for cooking but also had huge sex drive, to much for me to handle. i tryed to change the men ive dated but we always ended rather quick. So its true we cant help it"


is this really true??

what do you see in him?

alot of women say that they only date guys because of their personalitly and not there apperence.
is this really true? or do are we just giving up on standered's and giving up on the idea that everyone can find that one hot spunk in the pack of guys to be with.
i admit i once used to be one of those women who said i would only go for guys because of their personality and i would even lie to myself that i didnt care about looks. durring the times when i was dating the guys only for personality i realised when i was kissing them, so forth, i wasnt thinking of them, i was thinking of the guy on a cover of romantic book i saw in the book shop.
a past date recently began to talk to me again after such a very long time, i first thing i had noticed was that according to him he had lost a few kg since we last saw each other, and the only things i could think of was 'eww eww eewwwww' its a bad thing i know, but then after a while of talking to him, not only did i used to ignore the apperence and try not to give a rats ass about how the guy looks, i realised i ignored the personality also, i realised when we were dating i ignored his whole persona, i day dreamed of charatchers in movies and so on...

there it was, i noticed i wasnt looking for a man for his personalitly or his apperence, i was just looking for a man.


All i can think of is thankgod i finally opened my eyes and saw the world for what it really is!!!

Wedding speech joke

Wedding joke




big: Love is like a dove, or a big fuzzy glove?dont use that i might have stolen it from a greeting card.

carrie: ...Dont be silly weddings are a serious thing....

big: then shove wont work

Get over it

how long does it take for a woman to get over a man?
Some women in big city believe that its half the time you were in the relationship for example, if you were together for 2years, it will take you 1year to get over him.
yet on the other hand some women believe in getting right back up on the horse straight away after the break up.
so which way works best? if you were in a relationship for 10years is 5years too long to wait until you begin dating again?
which way works?

payback

is it alright for a woman to get back at a man who done her wrong?
Subject facts - Man and woman dated.man ignored woman for weeks with no reason. mad is dicktator(added the tator to be nicer). man then had another. woman hurt baddly.
is it allowed for a woman to get the man back after all of that?

Thursday 17 November 2011

haha Away

I am not here so leave a message. Well actually I could be here and I could just be ignoring you and you would never know. I could be sitting here laughing at you because I am avoiding you and you don't know it. Ok, I'll make a deal with you. If you can guess correctly whether or not I'm here I will talk to you. Then again, if I'm not here and you guess right then I'm really just not here to talk to you. Also, if I'm ignoring you and you guess right then what do you really think are the chances that I'll tell you that you were right? So, I guess what I'm saying is leave a message and I'll get back to you when I get back...unless I'm avoiding you.

Signs

Trying to tell if a guy likes you can be hard, obviously there males and there stupid most of the time, its just logic. but here are some signs that may help you figure out if he is interested in you or not. but dont base your friendship or what ever you are on these because every guy is different and some guys can be basically unable to read.


1.You look deeply into his eyes and he stares back into yours even for a short glance there is chemistry.


2. You say something remotely unfunny and he starts laughing as if you're the funniest girl ever. 


3. He's always pleased to see you and probably misses you when you're gone. He does this by greeting you enthusiastically or smiling when you're there.


4. During an awkward silence he will always look at the ceiling or at his feet but really it is because he doesn't want it to look obvious that he was staring at you before.


5. He has a nick name for you. If he has a pet name for you like Honey then well done he recognises how sweet you are.


6. He calls you names. If he teases you it's that he likes it when you get mad because guys like fiery girls.


7. You do something because you don't care what anyone else says and he will also copy you as if you're the best at ideas.


8. Your body language matches his because he copies you and it is a real sign that he is thinking of you.


9. He will send you a text message on your mobile phone if you give him your number (definitely) now he has it he can arrange to meet you whenever he wants you.


10. He wants a snog so he will lean further and further in and then you should then look away on purpose so he kisses your cheek. You can decide to kiss him back or leave him waiting and he appreciates it more if you do wait.


11. If you are quite a bossy girl he will get used to you calling the shots. Now that means us girls are in control and we can make him play our stupid love game.


12. Flirt with him and he will flirt back. Sometimes his is not genuine but a sweet sensitive approach to a girl is only there when he isn't pleasing the crowd. If he likes you anyway he will hopefully ignore everyone else and be your prince charming.


13. There are people who spread the word that he likes you but the only person you can believe is him. Never get his friend to ask him out for you if he wants you so bad he will drop it into the conversation.


14. He says you're just friends but that means a lot more to a guy. If he wants to be your boyfriend he will be that 24/7 friend and a good shoulder to cry on. If you want to give him a friendly hug he is still being close to you and he will enjoy it.


15. You can never have too many compliments. He may hate your hair but he wants you to feel good about yourself so he will tell a white lie. The genuine way is if he touches it or completely shows a sudden interest in something.


16. He doesn't want you to come over to his house in fear of his mum, dad, brother and little sister giving him grief. He knows that you're not his girlfriend yet and can't face a meet the parents situation.


17. He will buy you really nice presents because you deserve it and will actually go shopping with you even if he hates visiting every clothes shop.


18. He sometimes phones you for no reason at all but to hear your voice and then he hates to hang up in fear of upsetting you.


19. He will call the next day or text you for sure if he wants to meet up again.


20. He may end up getting really drunk and confessing at a party now the worst thing to do is to humiliate him and reject him.



this info was from a website: http://sammypacker.tripod.com/signs.html 
its not a bad site.

logic

we dont wish for the easy stuff, we wish for the ambious stuff, the stuff thats out of reach.

RANNT!

Lets
Talk
Crushes

haha this is a fun topic.

one of my friends who i still keep in contact with, i had a very long winded and highly anoyying crush on him for roughly 3 years, which was so anoyying because durring that time any guys i dated, i always thought of that one guy.LOL i was cheating in my own mind???
thankgod now that has ended and i just look back on it and think "omg what the fuck was wrong with me" haha and laugh, not to sure yet if he knows but im guessing he does. =] wasnt that hard to see,.

as as your aware its now kinda on the long distant friend whos in a realationship.
hahahaha
ever gone away and met someone AND just wanted to grab them by the collar and pull them into ur hotel room? yeah well that happened, i didnt pull him or anything, nor did we enter a hotel room, i basicaly stayed silent and didnt say anything, i just day dreamed it...



lol

Just plain ranting

why is it when the boyfriend cheats the girlfriend of the boyfriend only get upset with the one whom the boyfriend cheats on with? i have been cheated on in mylife time, and i to was upset, although i think im the only person in the world to want to listen to the other womans side of the story and in the end i didnt blame her, i blamed the over sexed ex bf who got her drunk to begin with, and not to meantion told her that we have splitten up.

i have two sides in myself i have the side of me which would woop one of my best friends ass for cheating on his girl weather he was overly attached to her or not, and then i have my side who misses the best friend like crazy and dreams of the day when he will just pack up his belongings and decide to come live near me.
i do feel for both sides of the story, i wish i could tell his girlfriend never to let him go and to make sure she holds onto him forever,the girl is a fine girl, needs alittle bit of a overhaul in her looks but she is pretty, yet the other half of me wants to rip her eyes out and set her on fire. haha the cruel cruel world of me XD

when i think of her as just another girl that is in need of help, i know what to do, iknow how to help, i would bend the earths orbit to help the girl.....but when im the cheaters cheat, why do i still find it so unbearable that all i wanna do is help the poor girl??? even tho she is the gf of the friend??

gah the mental brain of me...so many thoughts going my head at once and 60% of them me feeling guilty for her, even tho i wouldnt take it back because of my respect and care for him.
id promised myself if he was to return id keep my thoughts occupyed by swapping my thoughts of wanting to just grab him and ... yeah with thoughts of homework and story writing. it does help, but im guessing  should have come up with that idea before i saw him..and not after everything had happened. and hmm maybe i should have kept thinking of john howard(no offence) using him as a cooling off thought, lol, it helps me but yeah, i stoped trying to think about it because thinking about my mate was alot more appleing then the ex prime minister of australia.

btw for the record the males in my area suck..there rude selfish pigs, why is it i can only find the good decent guys in places 1000miles away for me..is it a sign im to end up alone? or maybe i should venture out into the wildness...
ive been to a few different places where ive met some of the most amazing guys, confrences in Qld and holidays, where we have met and exchanged emails and so forth, but knowing things will never be able to seariously happen because of the distance is a nightmare. and how do you tell someone who lives so far away that you have feelings for them? without wierding them out or horrorfying them? and are these "feellings" real? or just some hopeless fantacy?
new topic(although based within the main one)
would you tell your partner you cheated on them? not many do ahve the balls to tell the truth, when one of my ex's cheated on me, i found out because of photos on his phone of my "ex bestfriend" naked. Yes my best friend(now we are no longer friends of course) but yes, he had many of her, and he had sent many of him also, and it was more shocking to realise i hadnt even seen him without a shirt on, yet my best friend sees him naked. torn between two worlds, i hated him, and i hated her, then i realised she being her slutty self did it to him, although that realationship ended within a few seconds....
.........there was another relationship when my ex cheated on me, but that one ended alot differently, he told me, and i then went to his other and found out what exaccly happened and why, they were both honest and i understood, and i realised they didnt just do it for the sex or the fact to cheat, they had serious feelings for each other which me and him did not posses, we ended as friends, and even now to this day 3+ years on they are still together going stong and i couldnt be more happier for him and his partner.

if i had my way ultimately id have all my matwes from afare move to where im living, to be closer to them all and feel like i actually have a social life, like the tv show friends and big bang theory, i get quite jealous of them, being so close and always having another so close to them if they ever needed anything they were just right there.
im not one who get many friends, im very quiet when i meet people, sometimes i dont even speak at all, im blonde and reletivly a small size compared to quite alot of women these days. im not spotry although i do love the odd day of dancing around in my underwear to music. i do not tend to go out night clubbing or drinking to get drunk. im somewhat normal and quite boring, i do not deny that. i just dont understand what to do to become more social, trying to get invited to things and talk more to people doesnt help, ive tryed that, and i end up at the partys sitting alone by myself thinking "why the fuck do i bother' or i end up being forgotten after 5min.

i want so baddly to have the connections like most other people, and ive even given up with the whole issue of it, i just dont bother anymore, because in my mind i think why bother with something just to always have it blow up in ones face?

pain

how can one measure how happy she is? is there such thing as a happinamomiter??
how can one test the waters first? going to the middle of nowhere to try and see if one can survive there without going crimminally insane. how long should the test go for? a weekend? a week? 2? how much time and money has to be used before one can find out if it is practically good?!?!?!?!?
doubts doubts doubts! thats all thats going though my mind atm, thats all i can think of(besides a few small little key notes) being able to aford to do what one wants and being able to become anything i like, or staying with the family out of saddness and not wanting to make anyone upset?
what is one to do when one is torn between to great loves? her dreams and her family?
being young and able to ajust to things quite well is good if it was just me going, because then i would be able to come back home if i was to not like it, but what if we were to allpick up and go? there would be no home to back to?...
if i was able to get a job and study and do the whole bit bymyself i would try it out for a while. but then again, where would i live? i can hardly aford a tent let alone to buy a house, or rent...and who would i rent with? i dont know anyone, and if i were to somehow convice the bestie to move along with me, is it possible to even think about moving with her, when i cant even stay in same room as her for more then 10min.

distance

can love really outlast the distance?
i ask you this question.
i have heard of many different "great love" storys some good and bad endings.
a close family member went on a holiday for fun, where he met the love of his life, whom she actually lived across the country, thoughout the next couple years they met each other, went to visit and eventually fell inlove and got married.
is this possible for anyone or is this just a once off never to happen again?

Move it

The Move.
being a city chic, a woman with style, and girl who adores Gucci and COCO channel and of course alexander mcqueen, who adores the beach and walking about in a bikini and showing off to everyone that yes im still looking decent for a girl who occasionally eats the big mac or two....to suddenly pick up and move to a part of the country with no active lifestyle. allthough truthfully speaking, i have no social life tobegin with in the city, i have 2 friends and my family, for i am not really a social person, i get really shy and paranoid when it comes to meeting people for i am always afraid id get hurt again...would moving far away from this lifestyle help me go though my probems of being alone and help me become more of a social person? though the thought of being a country bumpkin/hillbilly scares the hell out of me because i cant leave the house with a good pair of 4inch steve maddens and a handbag ful of every cosmetic known to the human race, and not to meant5ion my wide selection of electrical gadgets. haha. could i really be able to do this?? i know within myself it is possible, for if i can run 1000mts in a race and win with a stuffed up knee i can do anything. ts just the belief that others have in me to do so is very small,which makes me paranoid that im going to have a mental breakdown in the middle of a crop of corn and marry my brother and have millions of freakky babies(hmm ive been watching to much of the simpsons again) haha i really do wonder tho can it work? being out of trouble and being slightly close tomy dream of being in the gold coast. working our way there seems like a good idea, although id miss certin parts of the city now, like the river,the beaches, the amazing shopping centers......aghh  although there is now more of an online world of shopping, like ebay, monsters...and more..

could i really do this? could i really be wanting to move?!?!?!?

Love or Lust

does love at first sight really exist? or is it just a fanticy that we all like to believe in?
as someone who is rarely involeved with anyone and usually has minimal contact with males i have to believe in some form of love at first sight, because if i didnt id have nothing to look forward to in this world of the perfect woman.
how close is to close? what if say we have "jane" and her best friend is "joe" but joe is in a current relationship with "rose" what would you say is joe and jane became very close friends. friends with benifits if you will, they are close, they respect each other, they show a great deal of love towards one another, is it possible tostill continue to be the best of friends once rose has found out of there close-ness, is it safe to say you will still be friends after that problem, or is it human nature to ignore one another and pretend things didnt happen?
what to say of joe and rose becomming one in the act of marriage, would you expcect jane to sit by and watch the love of her life and possiblely her one and only true love give his heart away to a girl who atm of them being Very close was a nothing and just somebody he had to get used to?
gah!! as being jane the friend, id always say to let him go, be his friend and tell him to buy the most beautiful wedding ring and to take her on a honeymoon in the most romantic spot in the world.....but as jane the woman id say fuck her and marry me.
but im guessing you know which one i will choose for the sake of the friendship.